Feeling lonely can be soul destroying. It’s a difficult place to be in and can be quite isolating. This in turn can lead to compounding those feelings of lonliness, meaning your mental health could plummet further. What can you do to beat this feeling? Let’s have a look at a few ideas.

Why do You Feel Lonely?

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It can be hard for people to understand why you feel lonely. You can have lots of friends, be in a loving relationship and seemingly have a wonderful life, but still feel lonely. It can also be a challenge to find out why you have those feelings. Perhaps you are on your own, don’t have a wide circle of friends or feel your life is not what it should be. However, it could be that you feel unheard in your relationships, lacking the right kind of attention and are run down with the chores of daily life. You may have experienced trauma and feel others do not understand it, have suffered a loss that you struggle to cope with.

There are as many reasons for lonliness as there are grains of sand. The key is to uncovering those reasons and beginning to deal with them. A good way to do this is by speaking with a counsellor. They may be able to guide you in discovering what’s really going on. Of course this is not always right for everyone. Journalling, meditation or talking with someone you trust, might be a better option in this case.

Learning to be Happy on Your Own

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A great way to tackle lonliness is learning to be happy on your own. Enjoying your own company can be liberating in so many ways. Loving who you are and finding gratitude for the life that you have can empower you., giving you a new sense of freedom. It can combat those lonley feelings, because if you are happy in your own company, you don’t necessarily feel that lonliness as much.

This can be a long and arduous journey, but a rewarding one none the less. It takes a lot of work to build your self-awareness, confidence, worth and self-esteem. In doing it though, you wont only feel less lonely, you will also have a better understanding of yourself.

There are a multitude of journals that can help you do this on your own. You can find online courses that help work towards building that esteem, worth and confidence. As well as counselling options that give you an extra helping hand when you are unsure where to start. Each deserves some research before embarking on them, to ensure you find the right options for you.

Finding Purpose and Enjoyment

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With all of the above comes the ability to find purpose and enjoyment in life. Reconnecting with the wonder around you. However, filling your life with purpose to fill the void of lonliness will only work for so long. There needs to be blanace, as with everything in life, so working to achieve the above is paramount to a long lasting sense of contentment. In saying that, having purpose brings enjoyment and that in itself aids you in the journey of self-discovery.

There are a number of articles on The Wonderment that could help you to begin this journey. Simpy use the search icon at the top of this page or the home page to get started. You can also have a look through the organisations we have listed in our Therapy section if you are interested in getting started with counselling. Although, your GP is a fantastic place to start. Don’t forget to join the conversation over on social media too. You can find us on TikTok, Instagram, Threads, Facebook and Twitter.

About Author

Erika is bright, bubbly and friendly. Studying to be a counsellor, she is committed to helping others in the pursuit of better mental health. Having suffered from mental health issues herself including severe anxiety and PTSD, she wants to show others that the light at the end of the tunnel is not just a cliché!
Erika enjoys spending time with her little one, friends and family, crafting, reading, writing, music gaming, cooking, creating art, cacti and llamas.

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