2024 is well under way and for some it feels lack lustre and full of pressure. Whilst for others the new year hold untold possibilities. How is it that some people are able to have this positive outlook where the future is concerned? Is it just mindset? Do they not have challenges to overcome? Stress to manage?

Why is it Different for Some People?

The truth is there is no one really knows, there are so many factors that go hand in hand with a wonderfully rosy outlook on life. Some people just have that disposition for optimism and finding the best in everything. Whilst others make a conscious effort to be that way.

For some if is a challenge that seems impossible. Stress, worry, anxiety, health and mental health problems can all factor into how difficult it can be to remain positive. As well as many factors that are out of our control. That’s not to say they don’t try, but at times it can feel there is a constant onslaught.

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Is Relentless Positivity Healthy?

We never really know how someone is truly feeling. Those who seem to have this unwavering positivity may actually feel completely lost. It is a façade that they show the world, not wanting to seem weak, or needing to be strong for others. So, whilst it may seem they have this figured out, it’s not necessarily true.

There is nothing wrong in being positive, in fact the benefits of having that frame of mind are fantastic. We explore this quite regularly in various ways. However, it can be a slippery slope if not managed correctly. Using positivity instead of tackling your problems can have severe impacts on your mental health and indeed your life. Burying your head in the sand and hiding your problems behind rose tinted glasses is not the way forward.

What is the Answer?

As humans, parents, children, siblings and friends, all we can ever do is our best. We are unable to go beyond that as it just isn’t possible. So much of our time is spent sending a message into the world that we are successful, happy and have all we could need. It’s not a feasible way to live. It only adds to the stress and worry of life.

As with anything in life, it is balance that we need to strive for. Be positive about things, but with honesty. If you have a bill to pay that you just do not have the money for, thinking something will turn up just won’t help. Instead be positive by saying, ‘okay, now I will not have the funds, but what could I do to help the situation?’ Are there areas you can reduce outgoings? Could you do overtime at work? Could you manage this in another way?

Look at the situation and be proactive. Contact the company who the money goes to. Would they be able to give you more time? Reduce the payments? Help in another way? This kind of action is positive. You are being positive. Whilst you may not feel great, once you have managed to find a solution, whatever that may be, you will feel much better. If you leave it and hope it sorts itself out with mindless optimism, you could end up with a larger problem to deal with.

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Balance

It is within this balance of proactiveness and facing issues head on, that the positivity you portray and indeed feel will grow. It will be healthy and beneficial.

Future problems will be seen in a better light, the confidence within you greater than before. The knowledge that you can solve these challenges that life throws at you. It may not be with the outcome you wanted, but none the less the issue rectified and you able to move forward.

This also means that whilst you will always have difficulties as you move through life, you know they can be handled in the best way possible. Which is much better for your mental health in the long run.

If you want to improve your outlook and feel more positive then check out some of our articles by using the search bar on any of the pages you read. Just keep that balance in mind. Don’t forget to join the conversation over on social media too. You can find us on TikTok, Instagram, Threads, Facebook and Twitter.

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Erika is bright, bubbly and friendly. Studying to be a counsellor, she is committed to helping others in the pursuit of better mental health. Having suffered from mental health issues herself including severe anxiety and PTSD, she wants to show others that the light at the end of the tunnel is not just a cliché!
Erika enjoys spending time with her little one, friends and family, crafting, reading, writing, music gaming, cooking, creating art, cacti and llamas.

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