Much of the time we compare ourselves to others. People we know, social media accounts and representations of the perfect life that we see on TV. However, it can really hamper our mental health to focus on these mostly unrealistic depictions of how life should be. Being content is a worthwhile goal and much more realistic than an Insta ready house when you have children and, well life!

What is Being Content?

Being content is that feeling we get when we are happy. That whilst things, life and our immediate environment might not be what we want, we are happy with what we have. It’s about doing what you can, with what you have and where you are. They key is not to spend all of your energy focused on what you don’t have in life. This leads to missing out on those moments that create the best memories, to not enjoying life, but instead speanding it discontented and unhappy with your lot.

How to Work Towards Contentedness

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There are lots of options here and if you have a look around The Wonderment’s pages, you are sure to find plenty of tips and ideas of self-care and building those feelings. However, the most important and effective way to work towards that feeling of contentedness, is gratitude.


This is a word we have seen banded about quite a bit in recent years. For many it can appear very wishy washy and new agey. It has it’s merits though, even if you do feel like many do out there about gratitude.

When you are thank you, truely thankful, you have a greater appreciation for the world around you and the people in it. Right now, think about just one thing you are thankful for. It could be your children, that you have good health, are able to put food on the table, or something as simple as the sun came out. Just one thing. Got it?

Fantastic, now think about that one thing and how that impacts your day. Let’s take the sun, it’s shining and slightly warmer than usual. How does this make you feel? The sun might have an enormous impact on how you approach your day. As people we tend to be more active, have better dispositions and feel healthier when the sun is out. Can you think of three things the sun makes better for you? This is gratitude and when you explore that thankful feeling you have a greater understanding of what makes you happy.

Gratitude journals are a brilliant way to not just keep a record of how you feel about the people and events in your life, but gives you an opportunity to see that iprove over time and realise just how much you have to be thankful for.

There is Nothing Wrong with Aspirations

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Of course, striving to improve and have a better life for yourself or your family is not wrong. It is about finding that balance. Working towards goals can be extremely beneficial for your mental health, but making it your only focus can be detrimental. Find that content feeling and build from there. Once you are in a good place, you will find it easier to organise thoughts and ideas, plan for the furture and gradually improve the things you want to. Do what you can with what you have and where you are, appreciating all those wonderfuk moments along the way.

You can find lots of information and help to get started on al of this throughout The Wonderment. Use the search bar at the top to find articles on gratitude and self-care. Don’t forget to join the conversation on social media.  You can find us on TikTok, Instagram, Threads, Facebook and Twitter.

About Author

Erika is bright, bubbly and friendly. Studying to be a counsellor, she is committed to helping others in the pursuit of better mental health. Having suffered from mental health issues herself including severe anxiety and PTSD, she wants to show others that the light at the end of the tunnel is not just a cliché!
Erika enjoys spending time with her little one, friends and family, crafting, reading, writing, music gaming, cooking, creating art, cacti and llamas.

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