Imagine being free from anxiety? This powerful question was once posed by my mentor. It led me to a profound realisation: if we cannot envision a life without anxiety, we are destined to live in its grips indefinitely.
As someone who was battled anxiety and seen my two adult children navigate their own struggles with grace, I am eager to share the insights and lessons I’ve gathered on this journey towards well-being.
What is Anxiety?
So what exactly is anxiety? It’s a state in which our thoughts spiral into darkness, and that gloomy place begins to define our everyday reality. Breathing becomes a challenge, sleep eludes us, and we wake up feeling tired and irritable. Our ability to focus wanes, making even simple daily tasks seem insurmountable. Relationships strain under the weight of our unregulated emotions.
The constant chatter in our minds is dominated by worries about what might go wrong. We become trapped in a vicious cycle of negative thoughts, fixating on all the things we don’t want to happen. This mental turmoil takes a toll on our bodies, leaving us exhausted and reactive, struggling to get through the day. Life with anxiety can feel like an impending sense of doom, shrouded in uncertainty and unpredictability. When anxiety grips us, the chaos in our minds drowns out the whispers of our hearts calling us to be still. Struggle for anyone battling anxiety.
My children and I are living proof that life can transform beautifully, when we learn to let go by practising presence. Nature, especially during autumn, offers the divine demonstration for how applying the tips, tools, and techniques that can help heal anxiety and lead us towards freedom, calmness, and serenity.
Look at what’s happening in nature right now. The trees gracefully shed their leaves. The vibrant blooms of summer fade. Wildlife retreats to hibernate during the cooler, restorative months. Nature demonstrates how, when we allow the natural flow of life, we are carried by its powerful force through our own evolution.
How to Let Go
Allow me share with you a simple, though not always easy, yet profoundly effective tool that I use every day: the 1~2~3 formula.
- Pause: Whenever you feel unsteady or upset, pause where you are.
- Breathe: focus on your breath. Concentrating on your breath instantly brings you into the present moment.
- Feel your beating heart: Place your hands on your heart and feel it beating. This simple act aligns you with the universal power of love the orchestrates all things.
I invite you to try it now for a few seconds. Pause, breathe, and feel your beating heart. Notice how this brief moment soothes you, even if only for a few seconds. Building your capacity to find solace within yourself takes practice, starting with just a few seconds and gradually extending to longer periods.
Anxiety stems from an inability to be present in the moment where peace, calm, and serenity naturally reside. Embrace the wisdom of nature and recognise that letting go of anxiety can be as simple as 1~2~3.
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Vanessa Louise Moore
Vanessa Louise Moore, the ‘girl next door’ who has been played to millions across the UK via BBC, spoken at hundreds of events around the UK, helped people with her book on self love and runs countless masterclasses with her pioneering work.
Vanessa is an emotional health specialist and been dubbed ‘The naked coach’. Her “naked philosophy” is all about helping people heal the hurt within in order to live happier, more fulfilled, loving lives because she believes that ‘feeling is the secret to healing’.
After spending over 25 years in the cosmetic industry, it became very apparent to Vanessa that no matter how fabulous we look on the outside it cannot heal the pain on the inside. She is a mum of two who has successfully rebuilt her own life after a series of life events left her feeling suicidal and at rock bottom.
Having realised that general counselling, therapy etc was only scraping the surface, she knew the work she had to do needed to be deeper and now dedicates her life helping others to do the same. Find out more at: www.vanessaloves.life